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In meditation, the student is asked to answer the question: Who am I?

The teacher makes this simpler by breaking it down into three questions:

Am I my thoughts?

Am I my feelings?

Am I my body?

Usually, a student will say, "Aren’t we a combination of all three?"

And the teacher says, "Ask each question and wait for the answer."

Each of us has an innate sense that we exist as separate entities, and we define these entities by our thoughts, feelings and body. The purpose of this meditation is to question our assumptions.

So, first: Am I my thoughts?

The most obvious thing about my thoughts is that they are constantly changing.

Most of the time, they just happen, like random channel surfing: My thoughts will zoom from what’s for lunch? to I really ought to write Karen, to I wish I hadn’t said that to my client.

If I want, I can choose what I’d like to think about. I can plan a trip or calculate a math problem.

Sometimes I can request thoughts. For example, when I’m writing a story and I don’t know what my character is going to do next, I can ask the universe for an answer, and usually I get one. I get a movie in my head showing me the next scene in my story.

In all these situations, my thoughts are changing, yet I feel myself as a constant.

I can even change an opinion about something and still feel that I am myself.

I am no more my thoughts than a television is the shows on its screen.

What about my feelings? They too constantly change. They may be triggered by a thought.

News that a friend will be visiting can trigger happy feelings. News that a friend has died can trigger sad feelings.

We can even decide to have a feeling. When we go to a scary movie, we know it’s just a movie. But we can decide to allow ourselves to be scared when things happen on the screen and the scary music is playing. We can decide right now to be happy or sad or scared – we can pick any emotion we want and feel it right now.

But like our thoughts, our feelings are not constant.

And we are still ourselves whether we are happy or sad or scared.

So, we are not our feelings.

What about the body? From a biological point of view, our bodies don’t have a single atom in them that we had 7 years ago. We certainly don’t look the way we did last year, let alone 25 years ago. But our sense of identity has remained constant through all of this. So, we are not our bodies.

Thus everything we identified in the beginning (our thoughts, our feelings, our bodies) is not our self. From this standpoint, I do not exist.

Now, let’s take a look at what we’ve just done.

We have gone through three levels at looking at ourselves.. First we were the I.that we thought of as thoughts, feelings, and body. But we stepped away from that I. We became split into two parts which we can call witness and ego. And now, we are acting as a third self – looking at the Witness and the ego.

Which of these selves, if any, really exists?